To maintain a happy safe and fun environment, there has to be a clearly defined set of house rules we all abide to:
Kind hands and feet: that is no hitting, scratching or kicking.
No biting or throwing things.
No swearing, using rude words, or teasing.
No jumping on the furniture.
All personal belongings and toys must be respected.
I manage unwanted behaviour by a combination of praise for good behaviour, a clear consistent set of boundaries and ignoring unwanted behaviour. I believe in spotting triggers, such as feeling tired, hungry or poorly, and averting any possible upsets early on. I aim to be a positive role model, because children learn good behaviour and values, such as being kind, gentle, polite and considerate, from the adults around them. Children seek attention constantly, and if they aren’t getting it when they are being well behaved, there’s always a guaranteed way of getting it! That is why I always praise positive behaviour with rewards of smiles, hugs, words of praise, stickers or treats of trips to the park or an activity of their choice. I use visual positive behaviour re-enforcers by awarding the children with a sticker of their choice from a selection. They can then share their successes with parents at home time. |f positive behaviour is always acknowledged and the child feels valued and listened to, there is no need to seek attention through unwanted behaviour. I share all the child’s achievements with his/her parents at the end of the day. This includes having been well behaved. As parents, it’s always nice to hear when other adults think our children are well behaved with polite social skills. But for the child it is wonderful for their self-esteem especially as they point out the number of the visual rewards they have earnt (all children like to please adults who are important to them).
If a play situation is starting to become fractious, I manage unwanted behaviour by helping them to share and take turns or by distracting a child with an attractive alternative activity. If a child has displayed unacceptable behaviour towards another child, I will say STOP! firmly, remove the child for time to calm down, and comfort the other child. Then turning to the child in a calm voice will explain why their behaviour was unacceptable, how it has made their friend feel (and if appropriate to their age, will ask them to say sorry), and say what is expected in the future. The way I respond to a child will be age appropriate, because as a child grows and develops our expectations of him/her change.
I will avoid shouting, being aggressive, humiliating or being verbally hurtful to any child in my care. At no time will I use physical punishment such as smacking, even when a parent has requested it. It remains my policy to work in partnership with parents to best meet their child’s care needs. I discuss and agree methods to manage children’s behaviour with all parents before their child joins the setting. Wherever possible I try to meet the parent’s requests for the care of their child according to their family values. Records of these requirements are kept with their child’s record forms. These records are reviewed regularly. A consistent approach, to promote positive behaviour and discourage unwanted behaviour, between the child’s home and the setting will benefit the child’s welfare and ensure they are not being confused by mixed messages. If we work together as partners, your child will know and feel secure within the boundaries set.
I will only physically intervene, and possibly restrain, a child to prevent an accident, such as a child running into the road, or to prevent an injury or damage. I will record when this occurs and inform parents on the same day, or as soon as reasonably practicable.
I acknowledge the strength and range of children’s feelings and try to help children to find constructive solutions for managing these.
I encourage responsibility by talking to children about choices and their possible consequences.
I aim to be firm and consistent so that children know and feel secure within the boundaries I set.
I will respond positively to children who constantly seek attention or are disruptive.
I will help children maintain their self-esteem by showing I disapprove of challenging behaviour, not the child themselves.
All significant incidents are recorded in an incident book and will be shared and discussed with parents of the child concerned so that together we can work to resolve any behavioural issues. If I have concerns about a child’s behaviour which are not being resolved, I will ask permission from the parents to talk it through with another childcare professional. I may contact pacey, the NSPCC, the child’s health visitor or a member of the Early Years Team (or other relevant advice team) for confidential advice.